Simplify checks whether player thread may sleep

Simplify checks whether player thread may sleep

A player thread may sleep on input or output, except:

(1) While it is executing a C_MOD command, it may only sleep on input.

(2) While it is being aborted by the update or shutdown, it may not
    sleep at all.

To find out whether a player thread may sleep on input, code has to
check condition (2).  It needs do to that in recvclient().

To find out whether it may sleep on output, it has to check both
conditions.  It needs to do that in pr_player() and upr_player().

The code tracked condition (1) in global variable play_lock_wanted.
It checked condition (2) by examining struct player member command.

Replace all that by new struct player member may_sleep.  Initialize it
in player_new(), update it in dispatch(), shutdwn() and update_run().
This makes the tests in recvclient(), pr_player() and upr_player()
obvious.  play_wrlock_wanted() is now unused, remove it.